I am going to ask questions now instead of tell everybody everything.īikini Kill is a powerful name, the more people don't like it, the more I realize how great it is. I practiced with Cathy + Kathleen today and it was (should be thought of as) warranting AMAZEMENT.Ī feminist to me means trying to confront sexism and be powerful. I hate this place but I’m not gonna shut the fuck up, EVER
I choose to participate because fuck society’s bullshit rules. I think it’s important to acknowledge that this experience is shared and to see it is a result of patriarchy. Women often choose to stop sharing our work/ thoughts/ opinions/ stories publicly for these reasons.
I’m speaking with first hand knowledge and experience here and I don’t need to qualify it with examples so I won’t. I don’t talk about it publicly because talking about it can feed it and it is fucking scary and because talking about it makes it more real and because talking about it makes it suck even more than it already does but trust me this is real and this is extremely common.
#Tobi vail full#
Not only are we punished for stepping out, we are also stalked and harassed on the internet/ social media and that impacts our bodily autonomy in a violent, unsafe world full of trauma and very real threats to our personal safety. I am used to having my opinions misunderstood, scrutinized and dismissed but as a woman in public I actually risk my own personal safety using my voice.
In other words, women can’t be serious, funny, nuanced, multifaceted, intellectual, flippant, base, complicated, contradictory, abstract, specific, objective, opinionated, political, sexy, repulsive, tricksters, apolitical, transgressive, free, argumentative, antagonistic, querulous, pensive, or loudmouthed. You are a role model, your band sucks, your band is too popular, no one cares about your band so shut the fuck up, you are too young, you are too old, you are too dumb, you are too smart, you are not cool, you think you are too cool, you are too ugly, you are a whore you are a slut you are a cunt you are a bitch ie you are a girl/woman and therefore you can only speak with authority about your own life and any experiential, lived knowledge you have gained thus far will be viewed as personal and subjective therefore not worthy. Things people have said to me as a person that has written about and participated in punk/independent/underground music since the early 80s: YOU can’t speak about that topic in public because
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